So we are trying to find a house before the baby comes, hell, we'd like to be moved in by july 1. We had thought we had a house that was 4 bd with fenced yard for 700 a month, but the lady rented it because she was told we did not want it by someone else, really?! Did you thin k to ask if we wanted it? ASK US! The longer it takes to find a nother house we can agree on the angrier I get. Justin seems to think that we can afford up to 1000 a month, which we REALLY CANT. So I try to find homes big enough with lower rents, but they are not "nice enough". Ok, we need a home, it is in a good neighborhood, and its clean, yes, its old and not as nice as the one you want that costs alot more. The point is that its within a safe budget and will work for our family. Would I prefer that it was newr? Yes. Would I prefer a fenced yard, hell yes. However I know how to compromise and to be fiscally responsable. Renting a house that is BARELY inside your budget and would give you no cushion at all should things go to hell is not a good idea.
I hope you are begining to see my frustration here, and to understand why I get madder as the days go by house hunting. My even bigger frustration is the house he is set on having also require a $925 safety deposit, from a company that is well known for not returning deposits when you move out. so why they hell would we put ourselves in that situation? So I am looking into other houses while he sleeps, and insisting that he look at the inside of the house he does not like, because if the inside is nice I'm going to remind him we can always repaint the outside. Ugg. I'm having a just shoout me now morning.
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Sunday, May 20, 2012
VBAC
Ok, so for those that don't know I had a c section with my son. To most people this means I have to have another one, but that is not the case, there is something called Vbac, or vaginal birth after ceasarian. This means that I let nature take its course, go into labor, work my way through contractions and dialation and then push, you know, like a normal person. But there is this big scarey vbac monster called uterine rupture. Yeah, its just liek the name indicates, your uterus ruptures during labor or delivery. Now that idea alone is enough to scare the vbac right out of most women, but not me. Me, I ask "oh really, and just how often does That monster rear its very bloody head?" The answer, in less than 1% of vbacs, its closer to .87%. thats not a big risk at all. granted its higher than the risk of it if you have NEVER had a csection (which by the way does happen, women do have ruptured uteruses even though they have never had a csection) Justin is concerned that i may die during this procedure. He is SO scared of it that he is a fence sitter right now, he gets that its my choice but states he will "never forgive you if you die and leave me alone with this baby" I have to laugh, especially after research is showing that my death is at a higher risk for a repeat elective csection than it is with a VBAC. Just wait til he hears that one.
I have looked at risk factors, and I have debated on what to do, but honestly I'm a perfect canidate for a VBAC, they ask for 24 months between births, well we are looking at 4 years here. and as long as my little bean decides to make his world debute before or around his due date there is no extra risk. I'm also gonna quote vbac.com here because I thought this was important. "Current US health law and medical-ethical guidelines give childbearing women who once gave birth by cesarean the option of laboring for a VBAC or scheduling an elective repeat cesarean. ACOG’s current guidelines for VBAC state that women with one prior cesarean should be counseled about VBAC early during pregnancy and offered a trial of labor. Physicians should give women comprehensive information about the benefits and risks of VBAC and elective repeat cesarean, but ultimately the decision should be made by the patient" yeah that means that after only one csection the bigwig docs think it would be unethical to not educate women on vbacs, would be unethical to not allow a trial of labor. Yeah, that sounds about right. Hello, if the big wig think a trial of labor is the best option who am I to disagree, who is anyone to disagree with a woman that makes the choice to try?
So now that I have covered that a rupture is highly unlikely I'd like to poke at what if. What if it did happen? Did you know that research has shown that as long as quick action is taken and surgery is performed within 30 mins that the risk to mother and child are minimal? Did you know that I ws rushed from my labor room to the OR and my son was born in less than 30 mins? Did you know that the hospital i have chosen to give birht in is set up for the worst case senerio and that my child will be delivered through emergency csection in less than 30 mins if anything should go wrong? Yeah, most people don't know that, most people assume that the uterus pops like a balloon and everyone dies, yeah no. If it takes weeks and months for a uterus to shrink to normal size after birht than its not going to disappear the second it ruptures. the concern is that the baby or placenta would prolapse through the rupture and into the abdomen of the mother causeing issues for both mother and child.
I think at this point i have defended my choice well and hope that everyone else can either stand by that choice or at least step out of the way for it to be made.
I have looked at risk factors, and I have debated on what to do, but honestly I'm a perfect canidate for a VBAC, they ask for 24 months between births, well we are looking at 4 years here. and as long as my little bean decides to make his world debute before or around his due date there is no extra risk. I'm also gonna quote vbac.com here because I thought this was important. "Current US health law and medical-ethical guidelines give childbearing women who once gave birth by cesarean the option of laboring for a VBAC or scheduling an elective repeat cesarean. ACOG’s current guidelines for VBAC state that women with one prior cesarean should be counseled about VBAC early during pregnancy and offered a trial of labor. Physicians should give women comprehensive information about the benefits and risks of VBAC and elective repeat cesarean, but ultimately the decision should be made by the patient" yeah that means that after only one csection the bigwig docs think it would be unethical to not educate women on vbacs, would be unethical to not allow a trial of labor. Yeah, that sounds about right. Hello, if the big wig think a trial of labor is the best option who am I to disagree, who is anyone to disagree with a woman that makes the choice to try?
So now that I have covered that a rupture is highly unlikely I'd like to poke at what if. What if it did happen? Did you know that research has shown that as long as quick action is taken and surgery is performed within 30 mins that the risk to mother and child are minimal? Did you know that I ws rushed from my labor room to the OR and my son was born in less than 30 mins? Did you know that the hospital i have chosen to give birht in is set up for the worst case senerio and that my child will be delivered through emergency csection in less than 30 mins if anything should go wrong? Yeah, most people don't know that, most people assume that the uterus pops like a balloon and everyone dies, yeah no. If it takes weeks and months for a uterus to shrink to normal size after birht than its not going to disappear the second it ruptures. the concern is that the baby or placenta would prolapse through the rupture and into the abdomen of the mother causeing issues for both mother and child.
I think at this point i have defended my choice well and hope that everyone else can either stand by that choice or at least step out of the way for it to be made.
Pertussis and vaccines
Ok, so we all have heard the horror stories of "way back when" when there were babies dying daily from whooping cough, just like they did from measles, chicken pox, the flu, polio, ect. But we all think we live in this cushioned modern world with vaccines and the such that have erradicated these things, but they aren't really gone. The diseases are still there, waiting for parents that choose not to vaccinAte their children. I will not argue that you have the right to not vaccinate your child, that is your choice and the results of this choice are between you and God. But I will say that children and adults ARE getting pertussis, Thats the fancy name for whooping cough, and that babies and children are suffocating to death from this illness. They cannot breath.
I'll be the first to say that I HATE the commercial with the mom holding her baby and trying to guilt you into vaccinating yourself, for your child's sake, but this is because I don't do guilt trips. I also don't do booster shots or flu shots. For myself that is. My son gets his vaccines because I don't want to worry that someday it MIGHT happen, because today is the day that might turns bad for so many families. And for people who think this is out of place in May, because, Hello, summer is almost here, my sister was diagnosed with pertussis yesterday. My son and I spent 3 days with her right before she became ill. Guess who had his shots and is at a much lowered risk for becoming ill? Thats right, my kid. When this baby is born you had better believe he will be getting the whooping cough vaccine just as soon as he can. Again, you make your choices for your child and I will make my choices for mine, we do not have to agree on them and while I may disagree with you I will not judge you for making your choice. But the reasoning I give behind my choice is not that I choose to have a mostly dead virus injected into my child. I choose to not have to bury my child. If this sounds harsh i'm sorry, this is trully how I feel. Have you ever read the book "Fever: 1793" it breaks your heart, and this is what stays in my mind when I consider what to do.
I'll be the first to say that I HATE the commercial with the mom holding her baby and trying to guilt you into vaccinating yourself, for your child's sake, but this is because I don't do guilt trips. I also don't do booster shots or flu shots. For myself that is. My son gets his vaccines because I don't want to worry that someday it MIGHT happen, because today is the day that might turns bad for so many families. And for people who think this is out of place in May, because, Hello, summer is almost here, my sister was diagnosed with pertussis yesterday. My son and I spent 3 days with her right before she became ill. Guess who had his shots and is at a much lowered risk for becoming ill? Thats right, my kid. When this baby is born you had better believe he will be getting the whooping cough vaccine just as soon as he can. Again, you make your choices for your child and I will make my choices for mine, we do not have to agree on them and while I may disagree with you I will not judge you for making your choice. But the reasoning I give behind my choice is not that I choose to have a mostly dead virus injected into my child. I choose to not have to bury my child. If this sounds harsh i'm sorry, this is trully how I feel. Have you ever read the book "Fever: 1793" it breaks your heart, and this is what stays in my mind when I consider what to do.
Friday, May 18, 2012
5-18-12
I am back, this time it wasnt from me forgetting, my internet has been down and my phone will not let me access the site fully enough to post.
So I found a new store, its called Simple Cloth in Olympia and the lady that runs it is so helpful. She talked me through what kind of inserts to use and what things will be helpful to have with cloth diapers, and I am very excited to get started. Well, get started with a baby in diapers, we started cloth diapering Sam at night, sort of, we are using the biodegradable inserts from gdiaper right now since i only have a single insert the right size for Sam. We did a registery at this place for some of the things we will need, I also have the registry on Amazon for gdiapers.
Since I know how expensive cloth diapers can be initially I am also looking into making our own if we can't out right purchase everything we need by the time baby gets here. There is a brand at Joann Fabrics called babyville that i looked at that had a good system that you make yourself, I will also we going a step further to make some that have the same snap in liner that gdiapers has (which is the reason i like gdiapers - well that and the velcro bit :D) LOL, I had a fun thought to put a "V" on the back like the "G" on gdiapers, get it Vdiapers for "Vrooman" Bwahahaha. But seriously I am excited to cloth diaper and it is all I have been thinking about lately, well, the only happy thoughts.
My unhappy thoughts follow the recent passing of my grandfather, the stress of trying to get time off work to drive out of state to go to his funeral, and coming up with the money to go. Its harder to come up with the extra moeny since Justin and I are trying to get a house before the baby is born, ad we may hove found one but its 1400 to move in plus having to pay rent on the apt until we can get into the house. See, I'm getting stressed just trying to think about it all. Ok, cloth diapers, fun fabrics and funky colors, WOO SAW....
So my 24th bday is coming up soon, as in on Tuesday, thats 4 days away. I have no plans at all, I was thinking about inviting a few (very few, like 2-3) friends over for tea and cupcakes but with everything thats going on right now I'm thinking not, maybe I'll pack a picnic lunch -if its not rainy and cold) and have said frineds do a picnic with me instead.
Oh yeah, since I havent been able to post for a few weeks, the baby is a boy. We're not sure of names yet but its only been 2 wks so we have plenty of time for debates lol.
So I found a new store, its called Simple Cloth in Olympia and the lady that runs it is so helpful. She talked me through what kind of inserts to use and what things will be helpful to have with cloth diapers, and I am very excited to get started. Well, get started with a baby in diapers, we started cloth diapering Sam at night, sort of, we are using the biodegradable inserts from gdiaper right now since i only have a single insert the right size for Sam. We did a registery at this place for some of the things we will need, I also have the registry on Amazon for gdiapers.
Since I know how expensive cloth diapers can be initially I am also looking into making our own if we can't out right purchase everything we need by the time baby gets here. There is a brand at Joann Fabrics called babyville that i looked at that had a good system that you make yourself, I will also we going a step further to make some that have the same snap in liner that gdiapers has (which is the reason i like gdiapers - well that and the velcro bit :D) LOL, I had a fun thought to put a "V" on the back like the "G" on gdiapers, get it Vdiapers for "Vrooman" Bwahahaha. But seriously I am excited to cloth diaper and it is all I have been thinking about lately, well, the only happy thoughts.
My unhappy thoughts follow the recent passing of my grandfather, the stress of trying to get time off work to drive out of state to go to his funeral, and coming up with the money to go. Its harder to come up with the extra moeny since Justin and I are trying to get a house before the baby is born, ad we may hove found one but its 1400 to move in plus having to pay rent on the apt until we can get into the house. See, I'm getting stressed just trying to think about it all. Ok, cloth diapers, fun fabrics and funky colors, WOO SAW....
So my 24th bday is coming up soon, as in on Tuesday, thats 4 days away. I have no plans at all, I was thinking about inviting a few (very few, like 2-3) friends over for tea and cupcakes but with everything thats going on right now I'm thinking not, maybe I'll pack a picnic lunch -if its not rainy and cold) and have said frineds do a picnic with me instead.
Oh yeah, since I havent been able to post for a few weeks, the baby is a boy. We're not sure of names yet but its only been 2 wks so we have plenty of time for debates lol.
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Ultrasound Day
So today is the day of the gender scan. Ack. Will baby cooperate?! Will I be able to NOT peak to find out now and actually wait for Saturday?!
Ok, my mild panic attack is over, Bwahahaha. Ok, now for the seriousness of the day. My apt complex has been tryin to find a new manager, and I was told that if they hired one that I would be able to have the rec center for this Saturday's party, which is what I want, since I do not want to have people over since it means cleanin my house more than normal and I am too tired for that, but they did hire a new mgr and since they haven't gotten their act together yet I still can't use the rec enter, so here I am trying to do a deep clean on my place with a tornato named Sam trashing it as I clean it. Ugg. But I will not be discouraged, I'd have to clean anyway since Bekah will be here this weekend. LOL. I am down to just the living room and kitchenb/diningroom. I have to finish picking up Sam's crap then vaccum and hope he stops dropping crumbs until this weekend, then I have to pick up the dining room table (its covered in mail and other paper work and I havent seen it since January or so. I alos have to do the dishes AGAIN! I have found that having another person living in the house makes more dishes than just Sam, Dad and I. So instead of doing dishes every other week I am doing them every week, sometimes more. Oh well, at least he takes out the garbage! Which is the second to last task opn my list, that after collecting all garbage and thow awayable things it needs to be thown away, So I will collect and let Justin handle those details, last on my list is laundry, which is mostly cleaned but not folded and certainly not put away. So this seems to be the biggest thing on my list, especially since I will not be folding until the livign room is clean because I tend to sit on the living room floor to do the folding (it has the most room for stacks of clothes) So now I'm gonna turn on my Itunes nice and loud, turn off Sam's cartoons (which will drive him nuts lol) and start cleaning....any minute now I will, I swear! Ok, maybe in a little bit.
Ok, my mild panic attack is over, Bwahahaha. Ok, now for the seriousness of the day. My apt complex has been tryin to find a new manager, and I was told that if they hired one that I would be able to have the rec center for this Saturday's party, which is what I want, since I do not want to have people over since it means cleanin my house more than normal and I am too tired for that, but they did hire a new mgr and since they haven't gotten their act together yet I still can't use the rec enter, so here I am trying to do a deep clean on my place with a tornato named Sam trashing it as I clean it. Ugg. But I will not be discouraged, I'd have to clean anyway since Bekah will be here this weekend. LOL. I am down to just the living room and kitchenb/diningroom. I have to finish picking up Sam's crap then vaccum and hope he stops dropping crumbs until this weekend, then I have to pick up the dining room table (its covered in mail and other paper work and I havent seen it since January or so. I alos have to do the dishes AGAIN! I have found that having another person living in the house makes more dishes than just Sam, Dad and I. So instead of doing dishes every other week I am doing them every week, sometimes more. Oh well, at least he takes out the garbage! Which is the second to last task opn my list, that after collecting all garbage and thow awayable things it needs to be thown away, So I will collect and let Justin handle those details, last on my list is laundry, which is mostly cleaned but not folded and certainly not put away. So this seems to be the biggest thing on my list, especially since I will not be folding until the livign room is clean because I tend to sit on the living room floor to do the folding (it has the most room for stacks of clothes) So now I'm gonna turn on my Itunes nice and loud, turn off Sam's cartoons (which will drive him nuts lol) and start cleaning....any minute now I will, I swear! Ok, maybe in a little bit.
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