Baby Names

So I have decided that the number one divorce causer among young couples having cvhildren has got to be naming their baby. Its the hardest thing I've ever done. With my son I made a list of names I liked, my ex looked it over said I like William, but not for a first name, I said, hey, me too, so that became his middle name. Then he said he liked Samuel and Blake. So we sent out a poll to our closest friends, and one day he was talking to my belly and said "hello little Sammy...or Blake" and he thus became Sam, which is awesome because my dad's nickname was Sam as a kid and that just totally sealed the deal.
Now as I am expecting my second child, That I swore I already ha a fricken name picke for last december, it is the biggest point ofstress in my life. Moving in like 24 hrs because of ass hole landlords I can handle, dealing with being hugely preggo and unemploye, totally doable (did that with sam) but trying to calmly decide on a name in cooperation witht he father of my child is going to drive me insane, or put me into pre term labor. Our fight last night (that I admit is my hormonal fault right there) ends with a snotty text from him telling me to name the baby whatever I want. Yeah right, sounds easy enough, but will it actually happen that way? Uh, NO. so now I play the waiting game. I wait to see when he brings it up and just try to find names we both might like until then. So any names that do not start with "V" and cannot be easily made fun of would be much appriciated...

great deals today!

So I took a new mom friend to a local baby store today and I found a boppy cover for $1, a super friggen cute snow suit size 3 months, it fuzzy. brown, and has ears! >.< yup, i'm happy, Also I was bidding on a clothing lot on ebay so I also won 50 pcs of boy cloth size 0-6 months all fall and winter (which i will need) and a moby wrap, I paid only $55 for all of it, the wrap alone would have cost me $30 at the local stores (they had on in today)

 this is my eBay buy,

my teddy bear snow suit.

6-11-12

So we got a house and I have started packing, I have also started making my own cloth diapers. I am very proud that I made my first one ever today. This will be a very short entry because I am suoer tired and just wanted to share before going to bed. My heartburn is killing me and I have no clue how I'm gonna get to sleep tonight... wish me luck!

Babycenter.com

Ok, I will start with a disclaimer that I realize this is an internet forum and that it is unimportant as all the women on it are strangers to me.

Now, I am upset because our October 2012 birht borad has ben disrupted repeatedly in the last month. Since our new group owners have taken over the board has gone to hell. It went so far as to have 2 rival faction break off to form their own groups, saddly this is not where it ended. Ok, so a little back story here. there is a person whose screen name I will not use as it is her real name and I dont want to post her for the whole world to see, but other members on the board refer to her as "queenie" or the princess and everyone know who they are talking about. She was always super sweet and supportive and never did or said anything that would cause you to dislike her, so some people took and instant disliking to her, such is the way if the world. I was originally on her side and could not fathom why some people hated her so much. I personally liked her and looked forward to her weekly post saying his is our week, as we share a due date. However, when the board split I was upset because my favorite drma makers (and it was not really drama by my standards simply good sarcasim most if the time) had left for the uncensored board, while the "rainbow group" stuck around to post both on our board and their "no dramam mama" board. Now I have been told that the princess has gotten her rainbows group to repeatedly report every post, whether a violation of babycenter rules ro not, in an effort to get people they did not like banned. This annoys me. Because its just so much bull shit. So this results in team 2 losing a member. Tink (i cant recall ehr full screen name) was banned even though she never posted a violation. Now I will say that there have been times that i thought tink was being an ass and may havereported these comments myself, but I report people that are trully out of line only. So now afer not really being online for a few days i come in to see that the babycenter staff has called attention to our group, Yikes, however they are not really helping the situation, and everytime someone asks questions and demands answers they copy and paste answers in reply that do not really answer any questions, while they may VAGUELY address a concern its like listening to a 3 yr old argue with himself. So afetr 160 coments on the Baby center staff post of them talking in circles I got a little angry., I will ad mit this, I accused them privately in a report ( i actually reported a babycenter staff member that logged on and commented defending the staff for vague answers) of conducting a circle jerk and publicly told them to fuck off. I have been very careful to be liek switzerland and not take a side here, but I cannot stand hypocrits being in charge, they drive me crazy. So I will see how long my public eff you stands and hope they dont ban me for itm though since i have never had a violation before I'm not sure how they could do so. Ugg.

House hunting

So we are trying to find a house before the baby comes, hell, we'd like to be moved in by july 1. We had thought we had a house that was 4 bd with fenced yard for 700 a month, but the lady rented it because she was told we did not want it by someone else, really?! Did you thin k to ask if we wanted it? ASK US! The longer it takes to find a nother house we can agree on the angrier I get. Justin seems to think that we can afford up to 1000 a month, which we REALLY CANT. So I try to find homes big enough with lower rents, but they are not "nice enough". Ok, we need a home, it is in a good neighborhood, and its clean, yes, its old and not as nice as the one you want that costs alot more. The point is that its within a safe budget and will work for our family. Would I prefer that it was newr? Yes. Would I prefer a fenced yard, hell yes. However I know how to compromise and to be fiscally responsable. Renting a house that is BARELY inside your budget and would give you no cushion at all should things go to hell is not a good idea.

I hope you are begining to see my frustration here, and to understand why I get madder as the days go by house hunting. My even bigger frustration is the house he is set on having also require a $925 safety deposit, from a company that is well known for not returning deposits when you move out. so why they hell would we put ourselves in that situation? So I am looking into other houses while he sleeps, and insisting that he look at the inside of the house he does not like, because if the inside is nice I'm going to remind him we can always repaint the outside. Ugg. I'm having a just shoout me now morning.

VBAC

Ok, so for those that don't know I had a c section with my son. To most people this means I have to have another one, but that is not the case, there is something called Vbac, or vaginal birth after ceasarian. This means that I let nature take its course, go into labor, work my way through contractions and dialation and then push, you know, like a normal person. But there is this big scarey vbac monster called uterine rupture. Yeah, its just liek the name indicates, your uterus ruptures during labor or delivery. Now that idea alone is enough to scare the vbac right out of most women, but not me. Me, I ask "oh really, and just how often does That monster rear its very bloody head?" The answer, in less than 1% of vbacs, its closer to .87%. thats not a big risk at all. granted its higher than the risk of it if you have NEVER had a csection (which by the way does happen, women do have ruptured uteruses even though they have never had a csection) Justin is concerned that i may die during this procedure. He is SO scared of it that he is a fence sitter right now, he gets that its my choice but states he will "never forgive you if you die and leave me alone with this baby" I have to laugh, especially after research is showing that my death is at a higher risk for a repeat elective csection than it is with a VBAC. Just wait til he hears that one.

I have looked at risk factors, and I have debated on what to do, but honestly I'm a perfect canidate for a VBAC, they ask for 24 months between births, well we are looking at 4 years here. and as long as my little bean decides to make his world debute before or around his due date there is no extra risk. I'm also gonna quote vbac.com here because I thought this was important. "Current US health law and medical-ethical guidelines give childbearing women who once gave birth by cesarean the option of laboring for a VBAC or scheduling an elective repeat cesarean. ACOG’s current guidelines for VBAC state that women with one prior cesarean should be counseled about VBAC early during pregnancy and offered a trial of labor. Physicians should give women comprehensive information about the benefits and risks of VBAC and elective repeat cesarean, but ultimately the decision should be made by the patient" yeah that means that after only one csection the bigwig docs think it would be unethical to not educate women on vbacs, would be unethical to not allow a trial of labor. Yeah, that sounds about right. Hello, if the big wig think a trial of labor is the best option who am I to disagree, who is anyone to disagree with a woman that makes the choice to try?

So now that I have covered that a rupture is highly unlikely I'd like to poke at what if. What if it did happen? Did you know that research has shown that as long as quick action is taken and surgery is performed within 30 mins that the risk to mother and child are minimal? Did you know that I ws rushed from my labor room to the OR and my son was born in less than 30 mins? Did you know that the hospital i have chosen to give birht in is set up for the worst case senerio and that my child will be delivered through emergency csection in less than 30 mins if anything should go wrong? Yeah, most people don't know that, most people assume that the uterus pops like a balloon and everyone dies, yeah no. If it takes weeks and months for a uterus to shrink to normal size after birht than its not going to disappear the second it ruptures. the concern is that the baby or placenta would prolapse through the rupture and into the abdomen of the mother causeing issues for both mother and child.

I think at this point i have defended my choice well and hope that everyone else can either stand by that choice or at least step out of the way for it to be made.

Pertussis and vaccines

Ok, so we all have heard the horror stories of "way back when" when there were babies dying daily from whooping cough, just like they did from measles, chicken pox, the flu, polio, ect. But we all think we live in this cushioned modern world with vaccines and the such that have erradicated these things, but they aren't really gone. The diseases are still there, waiting for parents that choose not to vaccinAte their children. I will not argue that you have the right to not vaccinate your child, that is your choice and the results of this choice are between you and God. But I will say that children and adults ARE getting pertussis, Thats the fancy name for whooping cough, and that babies and children are suffocating to death from this illness. They cannot breath.

I'll be the first to say that I HATE the commercial with the mom holding her baby and trying to guilt you into vaccinating yourself, for your child's sake, but this is because I don't do guilt trips. I also don't do booster shots or flu shots. For myself that is. My son gets his vaccines because I don't want to worry that someday it MIGHT happen, because today is the day that might turns bad for so many families. And for people who think this is out of place in May, because, Hello, summer is almost here, my sister was diagnosed with pertussis yesterday. My son and I spent 3 days with her right before she became ill. Guess who had his shots and is at a much lowered risk for becoming ill? Thats right, my kid. When this baby is born you had better believe he will be getting the whooping cough vaccine just as soon as he can. Again, you make your choices for your child and I will make my choices for mine, we do not have to agree on them and while I may disagree with you I will not judge you for making your choice. But the reasoning I give behind my choice is not that I choose to have a mostly dead virus injected into my child. I choose to not have to bury my child. If this sounds harsh i'm sorry, this is trully how I feel. Have you ever read the book "Fever: 1793" it breaks your heart, and this is what stays in my mind when I consider what to do.